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14 Misconceptions About Nigerian Wedding Planning That Nigerian Couples Are Still Falling For In 2022

Thousands of people are misled every day by things they take as truths because some so-called “professional” posted it online. The same is true for Nigerian couples who are planning their Nigerian weddings.

There are a lot of false and very misleading information about the best way to plan your wedding, plastered all over the internet just waiting to be believed Hook line and sinker by naive newly-engaged couples.

Please don’t be deceived by some wedding bloggers out there, especially those who are not Nigerian wedding bloggers. A lot of whom do not have the slightest idea about what it entails to plan a wedding, let alone a Nigerian Wedding.

They are only trying to attract people to their website by telling them what they think they want to hear.

Some of these misconceptions stems from the online professionals, while some are from just what people think Nigerian wedding planning is all about.

This article is to help you know some of these misconceptions and also to help you understand how these misconceptions can mislead you.

What Are These Nigerian Wedding Planning Misconceptions?

1. The smaller the guestlist, the lesser the wedding cost

I added “in 2022” to my headline because some of these misconceptions used to be true many years ago, especially before the pandemic. It it is not the case anymore. Nigerian weddings took a different turn post covid. It doesn’t matter if your guestslist is as small as 50 guests, as long as people are going to be invited, then be prepared to spend some serious money.

A Nigerian Wedding Planner will charge just as much for a 150 guest wedding, as they would a 500 guestlist wedding. It is not about the number of guests but the work that goes into the planning.

You can spend as much as N10 million Naira for a 150 capacity wedding. Vendors have been marking up their prices since post covid and there are a lot of factors contributing to this. The bad Nigerian economy for example.

Related: Creating A Realistic Nigerian Wedding Budget For 2022: All You Need To Know

2. The cost of decoration cannot be more than the cost of the wedding venue.

When my couples ask and wonder why their decorator is charging more than the cost of their wedding venue, I laugh and try to explain to them that the cost of the venue is not directly proportional to how much the decor will cost.

Wedding venue decoration is single-handedly the most expensive item you would probably be paying for your wedding. Decor expenses will take up a large percentage of your wedding budget.

There are a lot of factors to consider when it comes to your wedding colours. Some of which are, the size of the hall, theme, wedding colours (some colours are easier to get in Nigeria, while some may have to be shipped in from the abroad), the location, the type of decorator, decor accents to be used etc…

WEDDING TIP: Sometimes, Decorators charge according to the size of the hall and not necessarily your number of guests. For example, if your guestlist is 500 and your hall’s capacity is for 1000 guests. The decor accents the decorator will need for a 1000 capacity hall is much more than a 500 seating capacity hall.

3. Coordination Wedding Planning packages are easier to manage

A lot of couples tend to think that they may be able to save some money when they source for all the vendors and get a coordinator to handle the activities of the day… but what these planners will not tell you is that, in as much as you may be able to save some money, it is a lot more stressful for the coordinator to co-ordinate vendors that they did not provide or recommend.

The Wedding Vendors may have different work ethics, that the planner may not be used to and it may be very difficult to achieve a coordinated event despite having a coordinator over seeing the activities of the day. Besides, there are a lot of other things that can go wrong.

Related: Basic Nigerian Wedding Planning Packages (pros and cons)

4. That the internet’s average wedding cost in Nigeria is what it actually is.

Let me first start by saying this: DON’T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU READ ON THE INTERNET

When you search online, you would see a lot of topics on how much an everage wedding should cost in Nigeria. However, a lot of these posts are far from being accurate.

Many times, couples fail to go beyond that number and consider all of the variables that will affect the price tag attached to their wedding budget.

For example, you may have to make enquiries from those favourite vendors of yours, only to discover that your wedding may be significantly more expensive if you are getting married in Abuja the Lagos area of Nigeria.

And because these bloggers want to feed you sunshine and roses, your attention is distracted from the real facts.

WEDDING TIP: Please also take note of the word “average.” You must consider if you want the “average” wedding. What is an average wedding in the first place? And how is the average cost even determined? A lot of these wedding numbers you see on the Internet is compiled from various random surveys done by magazines and on social media etc. This method leaves a lot of room for inaccuracies while figuring the average cost.

You may want to read This Article where I talked about all the factors you need to consider before creating your realistic Nigerian wedding budget.

5. Your wedding is all about you

Many brides come with the mindset of, “After all, the wedding is all about me”. I’m sorry to break it to you baby girl, but a wedding isn’t all about you. Bride’s are usually the ones that are more concerned about everything being on point and that is why it may seem as if the wedding is all about them.

Granted, this is your big day, but if you’re taking the “it’s my way or the highway” approach for your wedding preparations, it will more than likely stir up feelings of unhappiness from your groom, parents or close friends and families.

A wedding celebration is nothing without your dearest and closest friends and families, so creating the right atmosphere and mood is the best thing you can do for everyone who has been a part of your journey so far. 

6. Outdoor weddings are less expensive than indoor weddings

Outdoor weddings can be very expensive in Nigeria. Mainly because a lot of things are not provided with an open space. Apart from the additional rentals you would be paying for, vendors will charge extra for one or two things. All these can add up to your wedding budget significantly.

7. Just because your wedding is on a weekday, guests won’t show up

Nigerians are party goers, no matter the day of the week, they will show up and be fully present. I remember a wedding I had on the 12th of June, 2020 and there were rumours of a protest breaking out. Despite the fact that there was a little chaos in the state, we had a very full hall and guests showed up powerfully.

The one way guests may not show up for a Nigerian wedding is if the wedding venue is very far away from where they reside.

8. Week-day weddings are less expensive than Weekend weddings

Many years ago, I would have argued otherwise. But in the Nigeria of today, week-day weddings are just as expensive as weekend weddings. Many Nigerian Wedding vendors do not give consideration for week day weddings anymore.

Some Nigerian wedding venues may give discounts for week day events, but these discounts may be very insignificant in the grand scheme of things.

9. The Day- Of Coordinator’s role starts on the day of the wedding.

Everytime I see this online, I laugh in Chinese because I wonder how anybody will write and believe that crap. When you call a planner to inquire about his/her coordination services, you will more than likely learn that ‘day-of’ means more like ‘month or months of’ and the fees associated with this service is higher than you may have expected.

Many blogs suggest that you hire a day-of coordinator instead of a planner, but I’m sorry to break it to you, except you want your wedding to be a total disaster, there is nothing like a day-of coordinator.

A coordinator start their job weeks before the day of the event.

As I have mentioned earlier, Wedding Co-ordination is the most stressful of all the Nigerian wedding planning packages. So stressful that some Nigerian Wedding Planners have completely yanked it out of their wedding planning packages. There is nothing easy about coordinating vendors that you haven’t worked with before and don’t understand their work ethics.

Besides the couple not understanding the right questions to ask these vendors before hiring them, there is a very high chance that a lot of details would not be communicated well and this can pose a big problem on the day of the event.

Coordination Wedding Planning packages can also be more expensive than you expect. I normally advise that a coordinator comes on board at least 8 weeks to the wedding.

10. Themed weddings should cost the same as a regular wedding.

Cinderella themed wedding. Our La’ Heiress Hostesses dressed according to the wedding themed

As enticing as themed weddings can be, it is also very expensive. Many Nigerian couples may not understand why but I will try to break it down for you.

Themed weddings are not your regular weddings. Besides, only a few people do themed weddings. As a result, some of the items used may not be used by your wedding vendors for a very long time.

Getting themed props can be very expensive in a country like Nigeria. This is because qe have very limited options as to where to source for these themed accents. Many times, these decor accents or themed outfits are created from scratch or shipped in from the abroad and this can be very expensive.

As a Nigerian Wedding Planner myself, and Queen of personal touches, I source for many of my themed props from Ali Express, which is an online shopping platform with their manufacturers and sellers in China.

More so, creative and unconventional wedding venues like Barns, hotels, parks etc don’t come cheap as well. Many of these venues will require additional services like rentals of chairs, tables, canopies etc

11. Wedding Planners will always get you discounts.

As much as I would have loved to tell you that it is our job to get you discounts, it is not always the case. We may be able to get discounts from some vendors, but this does not mean that it applies to every vendor.

Sometimes, planners are able to get these discounts because of their planner/vendor relationships. So if you provide a vendor, we may not be able to get a discount from the vendor if we do not have any prior relationship.

Moreover, not all Nigerian vendors give planners discount. On the contrary, the couple may even be able to get a better discount from some of the vendors.

12. The more costly option and big-name vendors are better and can deliver quality services.

Perhaps on a subconscious level, we’ve been attuned to believe that good things are expensive things. While that isn’t completely wrong, it isn’t always the case either.

The Nigerian Wedding Industry, as I have mentioned HERE, have no active event organizations that look into the way event professionals are absolved into the Nigerian event industry.

As a result, some new wedding vendors who may have just started their wedding businesses can charge higher than those who have been in the wedding industry for years. Which means that a newbie with no experience can be costly.

Social media also plays a major role in people believing that the costlier vendors will deliver a more exceptional service, as many of these costly vendors have mastered the art of packaging for social media, but in real life, their actual content is rubbish.

An expensive vendor does not necessarily mean that they will deliver exceptionally services, as I have been disappointed a few times by these costly vendors who charge way higher than their competitors.

Many of these big-name Nigerian Vendors are even too busy to pay attention to your expectations. Sometimes, they pay more attention to those they have a relationship with or those who are paying more money.

Related: How To Prevent Nigerian Wedding Vendors From Disappointing You.

13. That you need to have variety of things/vendors for your wedding to be successful.

Nigerian weddings have expanded and grown from just having a few vendors to make your event great. These days, you can have as many as 30 to 50 vendors.

The good news is, you can still have a few basic vendors and your wedding will still be great. There are some basic vendors and we also have the extras. Basic vendors may include a decorator, caterer, makeup artist, a DJ or Band, MC etc… while the extras may include special effects, cocktails, desserts, after party paparazzi etc

Whatever you decide to have at your wedding, just make sure you are doing it because you want to and not because you feel obliged to. More importantly, be sure that you are spending within your means.

14. Your parents will pay for everything.

Gone are the days when you can get everything for your wedding from the bank of your mum and dad, instead, it’s pretty much a fact that you’re going to be dipping into your savings and spending the amount you would probably spend to deposit for a house, to make your wedding day a great one.

Yes, weddings are that expensive and you would be needing a lot of money. Besides, your parents won’t even understand why you have to spend so much, they also may not understand why vendors charge so much.

So if you intend on having the wedding of your dreams, then be ready to save up and spend lots of money because Nigerian weddings don’t come cheap.

If I was not in the wedding industry myself, I wouldn’t believe some of the prices some vendors charge.

15. Your wedding planner should know what you want without you tell them what you want.

Do not assume that your planner knows what you want without you telling them. Communication is very key when planning your wedding. Your planner may know one or two things about your wedding expectations, probably from consultation and the few meetings you may have had with your planner… But be sure to communicate and answer questions asked by your wedding planner at when due.

I hope you you find this article helpful.

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