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10 Types Of Nigerian Wedding Guests To Expect At A Nigerian Wedding

Nigerian wedding guests are one of the most difficult set of people to manage at events. If you have ever been a Nigerian wedding guest, then you would be able to attest to some of the things that I would be writing in this article.

Nigerian wedding guests are one of the most difficult people to manage at a Nigerian Wedding.

The Nigerian wedding tradition makes it very difficult to manage wedding guests properly, mostly because of their sense of entitlement.

In this article, I will be explaining the kind of wedding guests to expect at your Nigerian Wedding and also writing an open letter to Nigerian wedding guests to do better.

What to expect from your Nigerian wedding guests

1. THE ENTITLED ONES

These set of Nigerian wedding guests always feel entitled, like they should be treated better than the rest. They are the ones who will want to sit on the VIP seats not labelled for them or just the general feeling of deserving some special privileges.

2. THE PLANNERS

There is always that one wedding guest who will see something going wrong and will say things like he or she is also a wedding planner and this is how it should be done. They even try to take up the role of an imaginary wedding planner and start assuming responsibility.

3. THE FOOD PACKERS

These set of wedding guests will pack as many food types as they can possibly fit into their hand bags or they even bring another carrier bag to pack food. These are one of the reasons why we always advice couples to prepare for more food than their actual number of guests.

Related: Catering At A Nigerian Wedding: All You Need To Know

4. THE NEVER SATISFIED GUESTS

These set of guests are never satisfied no matter how many plates of food they eat. They will always say that they didn’t get food or just find a way to make it look like food was not enough to go round.

5. THE GUESTS WHO STROLLS INTO THE WEDDING VENUE LATE AND STILL EXPECT FOOD

These set of guests never go to weddings early. They stroll in around 6pm and still be expecting food. Let’s face it, catering at a Nigerian party is one of the most stressful aspects of the whole wedding and expensive too. The earlier Nigerian wedding guests understand that not everybody can afford to have a wedding After-party with unending food service, the better for them.

6. THE ONES WHO WILL BRING AN UNINVITED PLUS-ONES

Even with a strictly-by-invitation rule in place, some Nigerian wedding guests will disregard this and still come with an uninvited plus one to any wedding they are invited to.

I once planned a wedding for one of my church members, where the pastor kept announcing every Sunday that the wedding was a small one and a strictly-by-invitation wedding.

I was shocked to find members of the same church bringing uninvited plus one’s to the wedding. I gladly refused for them to enter the wedding venue. I was honestly irritated by this, because it had been announced over and over again that it was a strictly-by-invitation wedding.

7. NIGERIAN WEDDING GUESTS EXPECTS TO BE SERVED AT THE SAME TIME

Once the caterers start serving food, Nigerian wedding guests expects the waiters to get to all the guests at the same time, and once this does not happen, they begin to crowd the food points.

Even with a large number of waiters, everybody cannot get food at the same time. But many Nigerian wedding guests do not understand this.

8. THE ONES WHO CREATE A FUSS BECAUSE THERE WAS NO PREPARATION MADE FOR THEIR PREFERENCE

As a Nigerian Wedding Planner, I have been privileged to see some of these wedding guests do their worst. I remember one time that a female wedding guest came to the food station and demanded that she wanted a Chinese meal. Unfortunately for her, there was no Chinese food on the menu at all.

She created a fuss about it and said she was going to report to the bride because she couldn’t believe that she wouldn’t have chinese food on the menu.

I also remember a celebrity guest making a fuss about the mocktail she was served and saying that she only drank cocktail and demanded that we prepared one for her.

There was even one who started shouting at the top of his voice that he didn’t come all the way from the U.S.A to eat one piece of meat. Read all about this story HERE

9. THE OVERBEARING FAMILY MEMBERS

These are the family members who were no where close during the wedding planning process, who feel they have a right to rearrange and disrupt the already laid out wedding plans.

They are the ones who feel like they know how some things are ought to be done and the way it is being done is not the right way. They come with their own new wedding plans on that day and feel like they can disrupt the whole wedding plans with their own.

They make a fuss about almost anything and everything and become very unbearable.

10. THE PERFECT NIGERIAN WEDDING GUESTS

These set of Nigerian wedding guests observe all the wedding etiquettes and are just perfect. They create no fuss whatsoever, they eat whatever is served, don’t bring uninvited wedding guests and are generally just content.

An Open Letter To Nigerian Wedding Guests

We have all been guests at some point or the
other, Please take a minute to ask yourself how you behave as a guest.


I planned a wedding about 4 years ago, where a groomsman, a graduate at that and apparently living in the U.S.A, was throwing tantrums over being served one
piece of meat.

In his words, “I didn’t come all the way
from the U.S. to eat 1 piece of meat!”

Like seriously? I was dazed. It starts with each and every one of us, if we really want a change. Let us all try to be civil when we are at gatherings and consider these few pointers. Thank you.

OPEN LETTER

Dear Nigerian Wedding Guests, help us so that we can help you. This is an open letter to every Nigerian who has at one te or the other been a wedding guest at a Nigerian wedding.


We know everybody is a planner now, but do not go to another party and be assuming responsibility. Please, stop saying things like, “I am also a planner and this is how we do it”.

We know you are also a planner, but if the client had wanted you, they would have hired you for their big day in the first place.


Please stop strolling to the wedding at after 6:00pm and still be expecting to get food, Not every couple wants an after-party and not every couple can even afford food for the number of guests that turns up or even after party chops. It is a case of first-come-first-serve most times.


Wedding ushers are there for a reason, stop feeling unnecessarily important at events. VIP and RESERVED tables are not for you until you are told that it is. Stop feeling entitled to own VIP seats, You are a guest just like every other person.


Strictly by IV means you will be ‘bounced’ no matter who you are, except we are given the go ahead to let you in.


Endeavour to bring you invitation cards to events you are being invited to and stop inviting uninvited plus one to an event that’s not yours.


Hoarding of food (can this even stop?). We understand that the Nigerian economy is hard, but these meals have been planned per guest, so if you take food meant for 4 guests, what are they supposed to eat when they come?

Like I mentioned earlier, not every client can afford to provide food for 600 guests when they are expecting 500 guests, Please let’s be reasonable.


Please and Please STOP crowding food points! Food cannot get to everyone at the same time, You will be served, just exercise a little bit of patience.


If you are given 1 piece of meat, eat and be happy, You are not entitled to 2 pieces, be grateful for the one you have been given.

Dear family members, if you want to be a part of the wedding planning process, please indicate by telling the couple. It is rude for you to come to a wedding and start acting like the assistant planner when your services weren’t asked for. Please stay on your lane to avoid unnecessary embarrassing situations.


Thank you, we hope to have a more civil 2022

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Head Planner,
La’ Heiress Weddings

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